Are you really in a happy relationship? Read these 7 secret signs of a bad relationship to know the truth about your relationship.
Relationships can, at times, be far deeper complicated than it seems on the surface.
You may see a cute couple who are happy together and assume they’re going to be hitched for life.
And before you know it, the happy couple could break up and go their ways?
Still, water always runs deep inside.
What seems perfectly stable on the outside may not be so ok on the inside.
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Sometimes, maybe you thought you’re in a perfectly happy relationship when in truth, you may be heading towards a turbulent future with your lover.
What are the signs of a bad relationship?
When you’re floating on the highways of a happy relationship, it’s easy to overlook all the little nagging issues that crop up now and then.
Don’t let infatuation and intense affection for each other blind either of you from building a successful healthy relationship on constructive grounds.
Keep an eye out for these hints of a bad relationship that show up now and then, and fix them before it gets worst.
These 7 secrets that reveal a bad romance in progress
Constant arguments, affairs or unhappiness may be the big signs of an unhealthy relationship. But these big unhealthy signs don’t just crop up out of nowhere. And it’s the secret signs, those subtle hints that can even seem funny at first, that make way for the great problems to seep in.
Read these subtle signs of an unhealthy relationship, and if you do experience any signs in your relationship, weed them out before it affects your relationship further.
Dominance and power play in a relationship can be a confusing task to read, especially if you’re being subtle about it. Do you think that one of you has more power in the relationship? A happy relationship has to have an equal balance of power between the couples. If you feel like I’m being dominated or not given enough control of the relationship and its direction, speak about it with your partner.
2. Eye rolling
Do you take your partner or their advice seriously? You may find yourself dumbly smiling at your lover or ignoring your partner when they’re trying to say something with you and your partner may even laugh about it.
But the reality is that you didn’t listen to your partner or assumed that you were superior to your partner, in that case, shows that you don’t take your partner seriously. To begin with, it may just be a one-off incident of a bad relationship. But if you find yourself rolling your eyes each time you hear something from the next room or repeating ‘whatever’ inside your head, ask yourself, why I am taking my partner so lightly?
3. Speaking ill of each other
Don’t try to insult each other just to get even or win an argument, and this is especially important when others are around you. Don’t ridicule your partner, and avoid saying anything demeaning to your lover when others are around. No matter how you say it, it’ll always be taken badly by your lover.
On the other hand, some people like talking about their partner’s inefficiencies to their friends, as if to expect solace and comfort. But by speaking ill of your partner to others or someone, you’re only reassuring yourself that your partner is not good enough for you. How can a relationship last when all you’re trying to do is convince yourself that your partner is not good enough for you?
4. Loss of respect
Respect for each other is a crucial part of a healthy relationship. If you don’t respect your partner, your partner would start to shy away from giving advice or even playing a part in the functioning of the relationship. And almost all the time, your loved one will end up getting attracted to someone else who respects their feeling and likes them for the person they are.
Sometimes talk is cheap and silence is golden. True, almost in all cases, but not in a healthy relationship. When you’re in love with someone, communication helps open up both your minds and creates a better bond. Do both of you spend your evenings with each other watching your favourite shows after work, and hardly talk about anything with each other? It may seem like a good way to relax after a tiring and long day.
But over times, this communication gap will disconnect both of you from each other. And soon enough, both of you won’t have anything to share because your minds and ideas are so far apart.
6. Avoiding conflict and resolutions
Sometimes, it’s good to overlook a few differences rather than pick a fight over them. But if something bothers you, don’t avoid talking about it with your lover.
If you find yourself grumbling to yourself about anything, be it the dirty sink or the clothes lying around, but you still avoid talking about it to your lover, it’ll do more harm than benefits. The rage that accumulates inside your heart would start to distance you from your partner, and yet, your partner would have no idea about what’s bothering you.
7. Taking your partner for granted
It is the most common signs of an unhealthy relationship. All of us take our lover for granted. But there’s a thin line of differences between feeling good about helping someone and feeling like an overworked mule. It’s very easy for anyone to unknowingly take your partner for granted. Learn the skill to put yourself in your partner’s shoes and ask yourself how you’d feel. It’ll help you feel when you’re being overbearing and annoying.
If you’re looking for signs of an unhealthy relationship, focus on these signs, to begin with. After all, even the biggest of relationship problems have to start with these little signs.