Healthy Relationships are one of the best things in the world, they lift us. Challenge us, support us and make us feel like we’re superhuman, nothing can get us down on we’re in a good relationship, especially ones that are just beginning.
But if you’re in the beginning stages of getting to know someone. How can you tell if it is healthy, often we get so wrapped up in ourselves that we don’t see when relationships are unhealthy. It might seem like a faraway it’ll never happen to us thing but unhealthy relationships are more common than you would think, and sometimes sneak up on you. If you suspect you might be in an unhealthy relationship.
1. You fight a lot
Now we don’t mean arguing over who has to clean up after you’ve both cooked dinner, we’re talking about yelling, threatening, and screaming at each other. If you too are getting into screaming matches over every little disagreement, you need to rethink why you two are together in the first place.
2. You hide things
We things like texting other people lying about where you were, or other dishonest actions. If your partner will get mad at you for texting your best friend forever or going out with friends instead of staying home with them. You might just be in an unhealthy relationship.
3 This way or highway
If your relationship always revolves around how the other person wants to do things or how you want to do things, you’re not in a good relationship. Partnerships involve being partners. This means you need to compromise, listen and discuss before actions are taken. If it’s always one person’s way, you two need to sit down and sort out before resentment and anger start to breed.
4.You feel guilty
This one’s a little harder to pin down your partner might not even be aware that you’re feeling this way Heck! You might not even be aware that you’re feeling this way. If you get worried about taking time for yourself, or if you feel that you’re not allowed to address it with your partner, it might be a miscommunication, or it might be a clue that your relationship isn’t as healthy as you think.
5. It’s one-sided
So many relationships are about sharing your burden when you’re in a relationship you get someone to lean on, talk about problems with, and have to deal with your struggles, and vice versa. You need to make sure you’re available to be a support system for your partner, letting them lean on you when they need to, if the relationship is based on one person or the other, it’s not a real relationship, it’s just taking advantage of someone.
6. They put you down
We don’t mean physically, we mean that they put down your hopes and don’t support you and your dreams, you need someone just as brilliant as you are! Someone who will help you achieve your goals, or at least you along the way while you strive for them yourself. Any partner that says your goals are stupid is not a partner you want to have, get out quick.
7. They refuse to do things that matter to you
There’s love in the ways you need to get out, they don’t respect you as much as you respect them. If they did, they would listen to your concerns, and make an effort to do the things that matter the most to you.
8. You are dependent
This one’s a little trickier to identify if you and your partner can’t live without talking to each other every minute of every day, you need to reevaluate your priorities. Your relationship should be a happy addition to your life.
9. They make you feel insecure
Your significant other should make you feel like you’re the greatest thing in the world. Why, because you are, you’re an intelligent, hardworking individual who respects yourself. And if your partner is not respecting you, you need to leave them. They aren’t healthy for you and you deserve better. If you feel insecure in any way, get yourself out, you’re in an unhealthy relationship, and you’ll be much happier without them.
10 They’re abusive
It seems obvious but sometimes people in relationships can’t see what’s going on. They justify their partner’s actions or take the blame on themselves. If your partner is verbally, physically,y or sexually abusive, you need to get help and get out. If you aren’t sure how or if you need help, talk to a counselor or a doctor or someone else you trust, they’ll be able to get you the resources you need to take care of yourself.
11. You change yourself to be what they want
This is a subtle sign of an unhealthy relationship but should be a big red flag. If your partner says I like blondes, and you go out and dye your hair that means your partner doesn’t want to be with you, they want to be with their ideas. Find someone who loves you for you, and then you’ll know you’re in a healthy relationship.
12 You’re unhappy
The biggest sign of being in an unhealthy relationship is when you’re unhappy.A relationship is meant to be a positive experience. You’re supposed to look forward to seeing your partner, not dread or stress about fitting them into your schedule. Let the relationship go and you’ll feel much happier.