10 ways to deal with a breakup
Moving on from a breakup is a difficult process. Following the shock of the initial separation or feelings of anger, sadness, and grief that is often crippling and mind-numbing. The pain of a breakup is so profound that it sometimes leaves us, not knowing what to do next.
So there’s no one pill medicine to soothe that broken heart. Certain ways will help you move on and heal faster.
Here are 10 ways to help you deal with heartbreak
1. Steer clear and keep your distance
After the initial shock of a breakup and on occasions the somewhat empty promise to remain friends. It is important to remember to distance yourself from them.
No communication whatsoever, including calls, texts, and IMs, even contact with the same friends or families that should be avoided.
Remember, It doesn’t mean that you have to avoid them forever and regret them. But it is important to keep away for a while for you to heal your heart and move on.
2. Surround yourself with support
When hurting, it is easy to distance yourself from others, and just keep the pain away, you begin to question yourself are good enough.
However you must surround yourself with positivity, and people who will support you fully. Not only will this help you in moving on from your ex, but it will also be good for your bruised ego, as it reinforces your self-concept and rebuilds your self-worth.
3. Manage your anger and avoid lashing out
People who deal with anger differently. Some people deal with it with grace and passiveness that epitomize maturity. Some people had destroyed furniture and memorabilia, cut out, and shred album after album of photos.
Lashes out at our friends who mentioned something triggering, and on occasions, come up to their ex and make a scene.
It is important to find a way to deal with the anger of a breakup. Some can easily fall to the deep end and resort to alcohol and drugs, one healthy way of coping is to try and write a journal of everything negative in the relationship.
This way, not only are you letting out your hidden frustrations and anger, but you can also help justify the reasons why the breakup happened in the first place.
4. Feel your emotions and memories and deal with them
It’s a natural reaction to push everything down and pretend that nothing happened because whether we like it or not, the role doesn’t stop if we are hurt after a breakup. It is important to remember that as humans we feel the anger, the pain, the confusion, the frustration, and the worry that you are not good enough, and you may never be happy again.
Acknowledging these emotions are frightening. However, it is necessary to face them but sift through them and deal with them to move on to a new journey in your life. Set a time to grieve the relationship for what it was and what it should have been crying and moping.
Keep a side of your negative emotions and don’t let the negative emotions consume you and hold you back in those painful memories of your life.
5. Talk it out
There certain days for the overwhelming feeling of pain and loneliness to reach its limits. You feel hopeless at the same time you feel like your chest is going to burst.
Many people can bounce back from the emotions and pain of a breakup on their own. But this isn’t possible for most. Some people have trouble coping with their emotions or need someone to talk to, It could be a parent, a friend, or in most cases, a therapist.
While it is painful, talking about the relationship and the realizations after the relationship is quite helpful in sorting out emotions. If you’re having trouble coping and feel that you’re depressed seek help immediately.
Even if you’re enjoying each other’s company, something probably went wrong along the way. Thinking of the reasons why the relationship failed can help you realize the mistakes you probably made and help you understand where and why the relationship didn’t work out.
This can also help to avoid making the same mistakes in future relationships. By this time, it is important to take good care of yourself. Look yourself in the mirror and learn more about yourself, you might find out something that you never realized.
7. Organize your living space
Seeing things that you have shared will bring forth torrents of fears and painful memories. To deal with this, you can change things up and redecorate your environment and inner potential.
You can rearrange the sofa, bedroom, and coffee table to painting the whole room a different color and changing the drapes, you can also prepare your favorite foods. Remove painful triggers that remind you of the past. Regardless of your home reminds you of your past lover, it is important to acknowledge change, embrace it, and accept it to learn from it.
8. Go out and have fun
Sometimes it’s easy to forget that there’s a whole world outside of your own. While breakups suck, and it feels like the end of the world look around your environment and surroundings and feels the beauty of nature. It is important not to let yourself be eaten by the negativity of it.
Eat meals with your family, go outside and hang out with friends, jog around the block, or just meet new people and dogs out in the park. Go out and have a fun night with your friends and relatives.
9. Be aware of rebound relationships
Rebound simply doesn’t work most of the time. For some people, jumping in on another relationship just shortly after a breakup is simply a way of masking negative emotions. It may sound nice to be embraced and appreciated by another person. But ultimately, when the relationship fails, the number of negative emotions you have to deal with will double.
It is important to settle things first and remain single to reflect on yourself in the relationship before jumping in on an unsteady relationship. Have fun and mingle, but don’t commit too easily.
10. Stand by your decision
regardless if it was you or them that chose to end the relationship, it is important to stand by the breakup and respect the decision to separate from those painful emotions. It is easy to focus on the good side of the relationship, and completely dismiss the negative side.
However, relationships are about balance looking with objective eyes that can help romanticize the breakup.
Cherish the good moments you have with each other, learn from the painful mistakes you did together, accept the situation, and move forward with your life, greater things wait for those who strive.
Remember, a breakup is a painful incident that affects us more than one time. It is perfectly normal to cry mope and feel depressed about it. However, one must always remember that there’s always a rainbow after the rain that even though it feels like the world around you is collapsing to destruction. It’s just a part of life. Each heartbreak is a chance to learn more about yourself and how you deal with it.